Free Resource to Encourage You
Win a copy of Tears of the Fisherman, Recovery for Men Wounded by Abortion.
The idea that abortion is a only woman’s issue has so penetrated our cultural consciousness that it’s as if men had zero involvement in pregnancy and parenting whatsoever.
But of course, when abortion happens it impacts men as well.
Just how abortion affects men is something of an open question since very little research has been done. Kevin Burke, LSW hopes to add to the understanding of abortion and men. You can win a copy of Kevin’s book and be part of our caring conversation about abortion recovery for men. Let me know any questions you have for our guest in the comments below or call in during our segment at 800-811-3003 this Sunday at 8 pm CT.
Join Us For Cradle My Heart Radio With Host Kim Ketola Sunday Jan 14 at 8 pm CT for a chance to win Tears of the Fisherman, By Kevin Burke, LSW
From the author’s website:
Tears of the Fisherman will help readers understand the wider impact of abortion on men, their relationships, families, faith and work lives. Through case studies, personal testimony, and the author’s 20 years of experience in post-abortion counseling, you will encounter men devastated by unwanted abortions, the burden of shame and guilt carried by men who were passive at the time of the abortion decision or pressured their partners to abort, and the impact of abortion among the male prison population.
Free Bible study – printable download
This one-page Bible study, Before and After offers encouragement to anyone just starting on the journey back to faith after abortion.
Hope grows as we find God’s Word providing the answers to problems that may have plagued us for years and years. I have found that the emotional turmoil suffered after abortion can and will be resolved if we persist in faith to lay hold of the rich beauty of our faith.
To receive a free downloadable printable copy just click the image.
Resources For Unplanned Pregnancy/Adoption
Note: Our links and their affiliates do not provide abortions nor refer for abortion services.
Resources For Post-Abortion Ministry and Care
There is also a comprehensive list of books and other materials for help and hope from Abortion Recovery InterNational here. Please know that you can always call our toll-free number for confidential help and we will return your contact within 12 hours. Call us at 800-811-3003. You can also leave a private message via the comment reply form. Simply let us know in your note that you don’t want your comments published. Above all, don’t give up hope! You are not alone. There is help and hope for lasting healing and peace with God.
Resources For Pro-Life Training and worldview
As a trained speaker for Scott Klusendorf’s Life Training Institute, I have an underwriting grant to bring this message to Christian high schools and colleges. (Event schedule here – schedule a presentation here.) Life Training Institute equips students to engage our world to defend the cause for life. This can make a real difference as young women and men make decisions regarding dating and unplanned pregancy.
Scott Klusendorf says,“Kim has mastered the pro-life position. She artfully combines compelling pro-life content with a winsome personality. Book Kim for your banquet, conference, school or church presentation today! She will deliver a pro-life message that will truly engage your listeners–and make them better pro-life ambassadors. God knows we need them!”
Free sample of Cradle My Heart, Finding God’s Love After Abortion
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This book is meant as a love offering to those in need. Simply click the book to open the sample in your browser.
- When you purchase the book, a portion of all proceeds is donated to organizations in the pregnancy help movement.
- If you find this material helpful and cannot afford to buy the book, please contact us via email at kim @ kimketola.com or mail your request to:
Cradle My Heart Productions, Inc.
120 Glenwood Chase
Peachtree City, GA 30269
A generous donor has provided a limited number of books as a complimentary gift to you.
Devotional Bible Resource For Grief and Loss
If you or someone you know is experiencing grief after abortion, this would make a thoughtful and helpful gift.
I was honored to write some of the devotions on child loss. Other devotional topics include dealing with suicide, the death of a parent, trauma, the pain of relocation to a foreign country, and more. There are also many materials from GriefShare, a powerful ministry helping grieving people through small groups in churches everywhere. All the contributing writers speak the comfort with which we have been comforted. From Zondervan: “Acting as a ray of hope to anyone wrestling with the loss of someone dear to them, the NIV Hope in the Mourning Bible works to restore the heartbroken soul. In addition to the promises in God’s Word for those who mourn are prayers and daily devotionals that serve as further reminders of God’s ever-present light in the midst of some of life’s darkest days. The serene, inspiring hardcover provides the finishing touch to this hope-restoring edition of the Bible.” Click the cover image for a free sample of devotions and features from the Gospel of Matthew. And now it’s your turn. What resource, book, movie, song has provided you with hope?
Share what brings you hope in the comments section. Grief divided is always easier to bear.
Free ebook for Men: Someone Stronger, Helping Men Take Heart after Abortion
This free ebook, Someone Stronger, Helping Men Take Heart after Abortion will help men meet the spiritual challenges of life after abortion whether they welcomed the choice or not. Abortion hardens a man’s heart or leaves him heartbroken over his lost child. But there is hope for every man to renew his spiritual strength. Be encouraged. God says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.” To receive a copy please email your request in the comment field below and we’ll send you the link to download the book.
Abortion hardens a man’s heart or leaves him heartbroken over the loss of his child(ren). But there is hope for every man who needs to know God’s love after abortion.
In Ezekiel 36:26, God says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.” Someone Stronger, Helping Men Take Heart after Abortion is designed to help heal the hearts of men who have been hurt by abortion. Here you will find help to meet the spiritual challenges of life after abortion. Be encouraged. We have Someone strong enough to help us in our time of need. Simply click the cover to receive a free pdf copy of the e-book.
I pray that God will speak to you through the pain and anger abortion brings. If you are a man suffering after abortion and need immediate help, please check the Blogroll sidebar listings for ministries offering care.
Post-Abortion Awareness Resource For Women’s Ministry Leaders
Listening to Abortion: What helps, what hurts
(Note: This article first appeared in CBA Retailers + Resources. Available as a pdf here)
I wasn’t trying to probe into anyone’s past or coax out a confession. In fact, I was so new to this church that I was reluctant to share something so personal. Yet, when I disclosed an abortion in my past, I heard from several other women in our thirty-member Bible study group who had also lost a child to abortion. Perhaps these women were relieved to hear someone, anyone, bring up the subject at church. Maybe I just seem like a safe person since I mentioned having written a book about spiritual recovery after abortion. But each one eagerly shared her secret with me that day. And each story was as different as the woman who told it.
During prayer time one sought me out to whisper through tears. She had no memory of the father—after a drunken one-night stand she couldn’t even recall his name. But she vividly recalled feeling hustled in the aftershock of a positive pregnancy test by the high-pressure sales tactics at the abortion clinic. Another woman approached me during the break to report she was relieved to be rid of the boyfriend who bailed when he found out she was pregnant. Still, she wonders all these years later if she hadn’t missed out on the daughter she had always wanted.
A third woman waited for me after the meeting to say she was a strong believer when she went off to college, but she was determined to sow her wild oats, and then equally determined to escape the one-way ticket to poverty this pregnancy represented in her mind. Now she was terrified her own daughter was following in the same destructive path. I also listened to the silence of a staff member of the church that day. She simply took my hand after most of the others had gone, very slowly and deliberately looked me in the eye and said, “I did too.” She then placed her hand near her lips as if to say Shhh and gave my hand a squeeze before she turned and walked away.
As the weeks unfolded I heard from others. I was surprised but not shocked–Christian women choose abortion in almost equal ratios to women of other faiths or no faith at all. The surprising thing to me was how closely this group matched the statistical average: one out of every five churchgoing women has had an abortion (slightly lower among evangelicals). Including women with a Christian affiliation pushes the average to one in three. There is a hidden mission field right here within our churches; millions of men and women are hurting and confused. It seems our faith does not protect us from abortion, but it is the answer, and our only hope, in the aftermath.
How can you help?
After abortion women and men wonder if they have committed an unforgivable sin. They may feel confused but they don’t know where to go to look for answers. They need to know that the distressing sense of having lost a child—an actual member of their families—is real, and can be mourned and grieved as we would any beloved family member. Even one we are learning to love too late. They need to hear God’s love and mercy. They need the grace of Jesus Christ in his power to forgive, redeem and renew. And they need you. Open your heart to those who have been hurt by abortion:
- Include post-abortion books and Bible studies in your class offerings and study groups.
- Encourage your pastor to preach with sensitivity to those who need the message of forgiveness and hope after abortion.
- Season your words with grace as you defend the pro-life position.
- Speak God’s Word when you don’t know what to say—it will be effective (Isaiah 55:11).
Listening to abortion is a difficult ministry, but a priceless gift to one processing the complex emotions that follow such a deep and intense experience. If you hear heartbreak and contrition, be kind and model mercy. If you sense a numb or hardened heart, be sure you share the truth in love to break through those defenses. Be patient in hope.
And love them well.
This article first appeared in the August 2012 CBA Retailers + Resources which also reviewed Cradle My Heart, Finding God’s Love After Abortion calling it “a must read.”
Crosswalk.com January 2013 three-part series on abortion and pregnancy loss, Part I: Healing Abortion’s Guilt and Grief. This article has also been re-printed for distribution in the Texas prison system by Mannassah Outreach and Ministry.
CBA Retailers + Resources Magazine August 2012 My Feature Article Listening to Abortion and CBA’s Book Review of Cradle My Heart.
More To Life Magazine September 2012 Feature Article Abortion is Hazardous to Your Spiritual Health
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