Abortion feeds perfection trap

Cradle My Heart Today | Lauren’s story 5-15-17

Abortion impacts women who are poor and disadvantaged. But fear of poverty drives many women too. Listen now:

Lauren Roman was the stereotypical overachiever, landing a role in daytime TV at age 19.

But she felt she couldn’t even let her parents know about her secret abortion at 18.

As she struggled with an eating disorder, Lauren learned to trade perfectionism for faith in Jesus Christ, and she shared the truth with her family. She says, “They were crushed because they would have been there for me.”

Yet, even though there is a grandchild missing from her parent’s lives, Lauren has found true success and real beauty in helping others make a better choice.

Lauren told us her healing began as she realized that God forgives our actions driven by ignorance and fear. She says, “Jesus forgave the ones who were crucifying him. He said they didn’t know what they were doing. I truly did not know what I was doing. And I can be forgiven too.”

God is not holding us to some perfect standard of behavior or performance or status which no one can attain. He comes in love, laying down his one perfect life, to free us to follow him just as we are–imperfections and all.

Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34

Listen to our interview with Lauren here.

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Kim Ketola


  1. Reply

    Jill Iversen

    May 22, 2017

    So true. We perfectionists can get trapped into situations and make decisions based on our worries over what we think others think.

    • Reply

      Kim Ketola

      May 23, 2017

      Thanks for checking in–and taking your stand against the perfection trap. We can do this.



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