Helping young women and teens navigate stress

Cradle My Heart Radio  welcomes Allison Bottke October 5

Allison Bottke

Allison Bottke

If you had the benefit of a mom or grandmother, perhaps an auntie or other wise woman to give you advice as you grew up, you are truly blessed.

How can you measure that influence?

I still recall my mother sharing a particular bit of wisdom when I was launching out to seek a husband after my college years. She said, “When a man tells you something about himself you should believe him! Too often men will be very honest and up-front about their faults and problems, but we women try to shore them up with praise and denials. If he says, “I’m not very thoughtful,” you should take that to heart and quit waiting on the cards and flowers. But most of the time we don’t. We assume he just needs a good woman to build him up–and off we go, never realizing he didn’t confess hoping to change. Many men, not all, but many confess hoping for acceptance so they won’t have to change.”

Is there a bit of advice you’ve received which has stood the test of time?

Today’s young women need to know it.

The American Psychological Association recently published research finding today’s teens face stress levels worse than that of adults. The problems arise in three key areas of the lives of teens and young adults:

  • School/college
  • Family financial pressures
  • Trickle-down parental stress

I find it fascinating that relationships and social media don’t make the top three pressure points, according to the experts. I was also very happily surprised to see research finding that teaching and reinforcing healthy relationships, including abstinence until marriage has been shown to lead to better school success and increased high school graduation rates.

Coming up this week on Cradle My Heart Radio, Allison Bottke returns to offer young women and teens ways to “make smart choices, cope with stress, and untangle mixed-up emotions.” Those promises serve as the subtitle of her latest volume: A Young Woman’s Guide to Setting Boundaries.

From Allison’s bio:

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

So join us! Share your wisdom or the wisdom of the women in your life. You are invited to call in during the show to ask a question or make a comment on the air. The toll free number to call is 800-811-3003. If you’d prefer to ask a question by email, write to me at before air time. Please let me know if you prefer to remain anonymous or receive an answer off-the-air.

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Join us for wisdom for young women with our guest Allison Bottke on Cradle My Heart Radio October 5 at 9 pm ET.

Kim Ketola



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