Ending abortion stigma

A year ago I sensed that America had reached the tipping point on abortion.  It has become such a common experience that public conversation about the aftermath of abortion is now inevitable. My interest in the conversation is personal–my life was radically changed when I was redeemed of the sin of the abortion in my past, and I answered God’s call to share my story. That was eleven years ago. I was not the first–many other faithful women have been witnessing God’s merciful grace to them by answering a call similar to one God placed on my life. And I have heard hundreds of stories since then. Women and men have been kind to share their most personal moments and we have cried together, prayed together, and together we are healed.

So I am in favor of conversations about abortion. But I advise anyone who has had an abortion to speak to God about it first before trying to find hope and help and validation from people.

I speak out about my abortion for one reason only: to proclaim the glorious love of God who forgives us and heals our hearts.

I believe it’s dangerous and unwise to ask women to unmask this hidden pain to advance the political agenda of those who are seeking to advance and expand the very thing which has broken our hearts and destroyed our families. It rings hollow for me when abortion proponents say they are “going on offense” in the so-called war on women by sharing their stories and calling for pride and solidarity after abortion. Abortion advocates are calling for women to bring the issue “out of the closet” and remove the stigma. What’s next–Abortion Pride parades?

Exploiting the emotional confusion women feel after abortion is just one more way that the abortion lobby traps women. First, the abortioneers lie and say it’s not a child unless you choose to think of it as such, and then when your heart condemns that sinful choice, they blame your shame on “right-wingers”. No, we feel ashamed because we know we have done something terribly, terribly wrong. Our shame is our only hope. To encourage women to proclaim they had an abortion for the sake of making it even more normal is just another example of the counterfeit compassion of those who prey on desperate women by promoting abortion as their only choice.

If you have had an abortion you have my sincere sympathy for the loss of your child. I’ve walked in your shoes. There is help and there is hope. And before you can resolve the lack of peace in your spirit, you must admit that you are troubled. If you admit your distress and you are continually told you did nothing wrong the only logical conclusion is that you must be defective since you cannot reconcile your hurt. Admitting our wrongs is the first step to freedom–because we know that once we do so Jesus Christ is faithful to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).

So, yes, talk about your abortion. And start by sharing the truth with the One who knows you best and who holds your secret heart.

Kim Ketola



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