It’s a myth that abortion can ever be simply a private matter between a woman and her doctor. Such a circle of privacy could never encompass all those impacted by a pregnancy if a woman wasn’t considering abortion. Partners, parents, friends, bosses, co-workers, and neighbors all encircle a pregnant woman with their love and care and support.
Likewise an abortion also often impacts all of your close relationships.
As a wife or lover you may now feel untrusting and guarded. As a mother you may feel overprotective and guilty toward your other children. As a daughter you may feel worried that your parents’ heartbreak or anger could never recede. Your friends don’t really know you because you can’t risk if it disclosing a painful chapter from your past. As a husband you may feel weakened or accused by God. As a brother you may feel sad that your siblings don’t really know you since you hope they will never find out. You kept your job, but you wonder if you sacrificed your integrity in the bargain.
As a Christian you may even feel like hiding your true heart from Jesus.
Some significant relationship challenges seem to go hand in hand with abortion. I was always worried about managing an image of perfection which I thought would make me more lovable and acceptable, pretending to be a better or different person. Was abortion the cause of the false personality or vice versa? Either way, the all-sufficient love of Jesus Christ is the answer I’ve found which can lead us to more authentic living and freedom from all false pretense, protections, and pride.
Privacy and pretense are close cousins in most abortion decisions. But God, who has always known and loved the true you, will make you new and bring you to a place where you will be happy to be known and to share your deepest heart with others who are close to you.
I can tell you this is true from my own experience and from the stories of hundreds of others I know who have gained the freedom to open their hearts to God, and then share who they truly are with others. As God’s love transforms you from within, you will find you feel safe to share your true heart with others. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! .” (2 Corinthians 5: 17)